Monday, January 27, 2020
Bury My Heart At Wounded Knee
Bury My Heart At Wounded Knee Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee by Dee Brown is a fully documented version of the obliteration of the Indian Americans in the late 1800s culminating at the Wounded Knee Battle. Brown brings to light torture and atrocity story not well known in the American history. The way in which American Indians was decimatedis best understoodby the authorarguments thatThe Whites told only one side. Only his own best deeds the only worst deeds of the Indians, has the white man told (Brown 316). When I commenced reading this book I assumed I had a good handle on what happen to the Native American Indians. The Indians roams their ancestral lands peacefully and basically, with great admiration for the nation and its citizens. Then the white man approaches, stumbling all over himself with the aim of reaching the gold fields in California or the rich the high plains farmland. The Indians are no more than an annoyance, a bothersome barrier that should be relocated to one side if patent destiny is to be attained. Lands are and reservations stolen, the land that white man has already plundered or passed up, are assigned. Those who do not go to the set reservation are hunted down cruelly. Sometimes even those who agree to come in are pounced on (Sand Creek for instance) and massacres happens with cover-ups that make many people not believe the story (Silvestro and Silvestro 144). Once on the reservation Indiana are often forced to move once again, farther away from their ancient homeland, after some gold is discovered or convenient highway to West Coast under plans. On the reservation they are fed leftovers of the white man by corrupt, unscrupulous supervisors, and discouraging words depict death. You might as well expect the rivers to run backward as that any man who was born a free man should be contented when penned up and denied liberty to go where he pleases (Brown 108).This history book is striking to look at, yet sorrowing to read. The photographsand illustrations are excellent, and were printed on good quality paper. It has a feeland look of a coffee table volume, while having the rich content of history text. The Indian are massacred at Washita, Sand Creek, and Wounded Knee with petite or no public tumult, but when he reacts by killing a couple of settlers, imitating the white Americans through mutilation, the public atrocity is deep and the military is ordered a blank kill plaid (Hobson 34). With every chapter the shocking treatment is recurrent, leaving the reader with only two alternatives of responses vomiting or weeping. It is exceedingly hard to read the Browns book, not for the reason that the sentences long or the language is awkward, (which is not the incident) but for the reason that each sentence, page, and chapter will surely leave every but the most cold-hearted with a reflective sense of woe, shame, and disgust. Brown deals with the entire major and the minor actions that entailed almost all Native American communities and the scenario remains always the same. The work of non-fiction, tries to tell the story about American West from the viewpoint of the indigenous populace, The American Indian. This in itself sorts Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee a significant literature work as it is one of limited books supportive of the Indian foundation. This is done by the use of council first-hand, autobiographies, and records accounts. Each of the novels19th chapters deals with oneparticular tribe, battle, or historical occurrence. Brown goes into explicit and deepdetail throughout, as demonstrated by the books almost 500 pages. However, as some may complain the book is text-book-like or boring, I think the opposite is really true. In general, very little is acknowledged about this terrible massacre and the book is a wonderful and fascinating learning tool. Brown has transcribed many books about the lives of the American Indian, comprisingof Killdeer Mountain and Creek Marys Blood (Sharp 96). The Indians did not bother or cause uproar, as Crow Feather articulates: We never go to the Great Fathers country and bother him about anything. It is his people who come to our country and bother us, do many bad things and teach our people to be bad (Brown 275). Here Brown strongly captures attention to the point that the Native Americans endured a lot, and did not request for anything more than being let live in peace in the ir own land as they were before egotistical white settlers came. Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee opens a door into the past. It forces individuals to understand the dark side of the American history and the extents white men went to achievethe Christian attaindestiny. With the exemption of a few civilians and soldiers, the white man is depicted as an indiscriminate sadist and murderer. They slayed Native Americans irrespective of age or sex,frequentlyscalping and mutilating their bodies, and even getting as far as chopping off their genitalia. These bizarre and shocking exposures give the reader a terrifyingvision of the birth of a great nation. This is perhaps the most extensively influential book about American history published in the twentieth century. Dee Brown used to be a University of Illinois Librarian, and had written fifteen books about American history before he wrote Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee. His characteristic professionalism is very apparent in the excellent research and documentation which went into this multifaceted history of American West realized from an Indian viewpoint. The most captivating thing, however, is the plight of the central character, Dr. Eastman. He is sent to a school of white population, and forced to leave his tribe, traditions, and beliefs, he became the essence of what an ideal Indian could developto at least in the perspective of white man (Hobson 271). He also intrigues by his stern struggle, not only ethnically, but personally too. Walking a line between different cultures, and never accepted well in either of them; Dr. Eastman became a spokesperson for the Native Americans, while still attempting to maintain his personality as a tribe person. The whole situation where the tribe viewed him as a collaborator, an Indian, turned to white man that would not fit within his culture. His story is strongly portrayed in this book and provides a great vision into some of the extreme crimes ever committed on the Native Americans. Dee Brown, in this colossal undertaking, relates the closing ages of an ignoble period of American history. Straddling the period between 1850 and 1890, this book relates the doom of the many native communities who were massacred for the sake of the greed white Americans for land and other resources. Brown says (pg. 211) that only men who utilized the land were entitled to it, a statement that clearly identifies America at that time from the beginning of the book unfolding the ejection of the Navajos community from their own homes to reserved places, and then later permitted to go back to less fertile spots, Wounded Knee, the occasion that marked the final battle of the Native Americans. Throughout the book, the expressions of the past can apparently be heard. Wherever possible, Brown uses contemporary versions to tell the story, only filling in the holes as a storyteller on a documentary. The feeling of intimacy accompanied by the numerous maps and photos brings society that has disappeared to life, and I would argue, left the domain a poorer place. Although this was perhaps never the purpose, Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee is more of an indictment of white Americans and an attitude that continues to this day, since it is past events history. The attitudes that permitted the U.S government and army to annihilate a whole nation can still be seen in the American approach towards international affairs and may aid to explain why many outside the United Sates are so opposed to the American policy in nations such as Afghanistan and Iraq. I would envisage that this book may be extremely uncomfortable for Americans, telling, since it does of the massacre carried out just for settlers could have bigger land and everything within it. However itchy though, I deliberate that reading this book should be obligatory for everyone who wants to gain an understanding on the America of only over one century ago. Reading it may also provide some understanding into why there are problems. There are plenty reservations where once proud societies who believed that land belonged to no body but was merely borrowed, are forced to live. Dee Browns Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee is a brilliantly written and intuitive piece of American literature. Dee Brown asks us to confront their past, which may make us uncomfortable. But there remain two sides to every tale, and Brown shows the reader the side that they rarely see. By forcing the reader to think about these concerns, Dee Brown accomplished the objective he set out to attain when he began writing his eye opening account on the American West (Sharp 411). Further, the book offers the history that ultimately leads to the Wounded Knee slaughter tragedy. The pain, misunderstanding, suffering, fight for personal starvation, and, as well as cultural self all lead to an astonishing story of not just the saga of the establishing of American West, with the downfall of Native American nations however, it is also an close look into the nationsfailure in inter-relations and sacrifices of culture that fallouts when nations divide. Brown does an excellent job to point out the hypocrisy of the settlers many times throughout his book, stating that the white men of the United Statesà ¢Ã¢â ¬Ã ¦ talked so much of peace but rarely seemed to practice it (Brown 8). This is a persuasive history, and one that have to be not only forgotten, but it ought to be studied, and eventually understood. I believe its power, and worth still carries importance nowadays and the history value presented applies to not only nations at large, but to individuals that forms the nations particularly when these nations find themselves in conflicts with each other.
Sunday, January 19, 2020
Art Evaluation (year10) :: essays research papers
Art book evaluation (Year 10) This year we have been studying natural forms, this has involved using many new and different materials and techniques. Firstly we started by looking at art by Georgia Oââ¬â¢keefe who mainly painted abstract flowers this was a new style for me as I have never tried drawing in abstract style before, after this we did two paintings in acrylics one of shells and one piece of corn and around the edge of the paintings I then collaged in the background. This was a new way of doing backgrounds for me, as I have never tried using painting and colaging together. We have also tried a picture of natural objects with pastels then used chalk to make a grey background. I didnââ¬â¢t really like the results of the chalk background because it was so dull. Then we did a picture of fruits in pencils and shaded them this piece was very similar to the pictures I made of fruits later in my book one in watercolour pencils and one I collaged. I was very pleased with my picture in watercolour pencils but the collage didnââ¬â¢t turn out to well. After this I made a page of leaves drawn in 2 styles two in pencils and two in rubbings. I was pleased with the leaves done in pencil but the rubbings didnââ¬â¢t look that nice as you can only get a single colour and no shading. Next continuing with the vegetation theme I made a picture of Monetââ¬â¢s water lilies. I was pleased with this as it allowed me to experiment with pastels and enabled me to create a strong colourful picture. Next we made a copy of a picture of Jesus on the cross in acrylic this painting was done by Gauguin. This enabled me to experiment with a new style of painting with its simple lines and bright colours. The next piece of art is the piece that Iââ¬â¢m happiest with out of my entire book. It was a copy of a print of black and white natural objects shaded with dots and lines. This was a completely new style of shading for me and it is one that I like a lot. Then I started developing my final art piece for the year I took a section of my garden and drew and shaded it in black pen after this I did 2 or 3 more pictures of this section of my garden one in pencil one in collage and one in acrylic.
Saturday, January 11, 2020
92-Tricks of Communication-Leil Lowndes
Technique #1 The Flooding Smile Donââ¬â¢t ? ash an immediate smile when you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the bene? ciary. Instead, look at the other personââ¬â¢s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile ? ood over your face and over? ow into your eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second delay convinces people your ? ooding smile is genuine and only for them. Technique #2 Sticky Eyes Pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation partnerââ¬â¢s with sticky warm taffy. Donââ¬â¢t break eye contact even after he or she has ? ished speaking. When you must look away, do it ever so slowly, reluctantly, stretching the gooey taffy until the tiny string ? nally breaks. Technique #3 Epoxy Eyes ( dusray key baatay suntay suntay dusro say nazray melena chahtay hai .. toh yeh trick kaam key hai ) This brazen technique packs a powerful punch. Watch your target pers on even when someone else is talking. No matter who is speaking, keep looking at the man or woman you want to impact. Technique #4 Hang by Your Teeth ( BHAIYA JI , SMILE ) Visualize a circus iron-jaw bit hanging from the frame of every door you walk through. Take a bite and, with it ? mly between your teeth, let it swoop you to the peak of the big top. When you hang by your teeth, every muscle is stretched into perfect posture position. Technique #5 The Big-Baby Pivot Give everyone you meet The Big-Baby Pivot. The instant the two of you are introduced, reward your new acquaintance. Give the warm smile, the total-body turn, and the undivided attention you would give a tiny tyke who crawled up to your feet, turned a precious face up to yours, and beamed a big toothless grin. Pivoting 100 percent toward the new person shouts ââ¬Å"I think you are very, very special. â⬠Technique #6 Hello Old Friend ( DOSTANA DUDE ) When meeting someone, imagine he or she is an old friend (an old customer, an old beloved, or someone else you had great affection for). How sad, the vicis- situdes of life tore you two asunder. But, holy mack- erel, now the party (the meeting, the convention) has reunited you with your long-lost old friend! The joyful experience starts a remarkable chain reaction in your body from the subconscious softening of your eyebrows to the positioning of your toesââ¬âand everything between. Technique #7 Limit the Fidget ( KHUJLEE MAT KARNA baat kartay samay) Whenever your conversation really counts, let your nose tch, your ear tingle, or your foot prickle. Do not ?dget, twitch, wiggle, squirm, or scratch. And above all, keep your paws away from your puss. Hand motions near your face and all ? dgeting can give your listener the gut feeling youââ¬â¢re ? bbing. Technique #8 Hansââ¬â¢s Horse Sense ( ghoday key tarah bano ðŸË⺠hamesha pehlay Sunoo, socho fir bolo) Make it a habit t o get on a dual track while talking. Express yourself, but keep a keen eye on how your listener is reacting to what youââ¬â¢re saying. Then plan your moves accordingly. If a horse can do it, so can a human. People will say you pick up on everything. You never miss a trick. Youââ¬â¢ve got horse sense Technique #9 Watch the Scene Before You Make the Scene ( be lyk RAJNIKAANTHâ⬠¦ LOL ) Rehearse being the Super Somebody you want to be ahead of time. SEE yourself walking around with Hang by Your Teeth posture, shaking hands, smiling the Flooding Smile, and making Sticky Eyes. HEAR your- self chatting comfortably with everyone. FEEL the pleasure of knowing you are in peak form and everyone is gravitating toward you. VISUALIZE yourself a Super Somebody. Then it all happens automatically. Technique #10 Make a Mood Match ( YO boyzâ⬠¦:P make a mood match bro.. ) Before opening your mouth, take a ââ¬Å"voice sampleâ⬠of our listener to detect his or her state of mind. Take a ââ¬Å"psychic photographâ⬠of the expression to see if your listener looks buoyant, bored, or blitzed. If you ever want to bring people around to your thoughts, you must match their mood and voice tone, if only for a moment. Technique #11 Prosaic with Passion ( first im pression is last impression) Worried about your ? rst words? Fear not, because 80 percent of your listenerââ¬â¢s impression has nothing to do with your words anyway. Almost anything you say at ?rst is ? ne. No matter how prosaic the text, an empathetic mood, a positive demeanor, and passionate delivery make you sound exciting. Technique #12 Always Wear a Whatzit ( CHENDHA KARNA ) Whenever you go to a gathering, wear or carry something unusual to give people who ? nd you the delightful stranger across the crowded room an excuse to approach. ââ¬Å"Excuse me, I couldnââ¬â¢t help but notice your . . . what IS that? â⬠Technique #13 Whoozat ( for starting a consversation) Whoozat is the most effective, least used (by non- politicians) meeting-people device ever contrived. Simply ask the party giver to make the introduction, or pump for a few facts that you can immediately turn into icebreakers. Technique #14 Eavesdrop In No Whatzit? No host for Whoozat? No problem! Just sidle up behind the swarm of folks you want to in? l- trate and open your ears. Wait for any ? imsy excuse and jump in with ââ¬Å"Excuse me, I couldnââ¬â¢t help but overhear. . . .â⬠Will they be taken aback? Momentarily. Will they get over it? Momentarily. Will you be in the conversation? Absolutely! Technique #15 Never the Naked City ( Apnay rehnay key jagah ko achi jagh say compare karna chaiyay ) supificial SAKINAKA ) Whenever someone asks you the inevitable, ââ¬Å"And where are you from? â⬠never, ever, unfairly challenge their powers of imagination with a one-word answer. Learn some engaging facts about your hometown hat conversational partners can comment on. Then, when they say something clever in response to your bait, they think youââ¬â¢re a great conversationalist. Technique #16 Never the Naked Job ( if sum1 askâ⬠¦ what do you do? To koi raaapchik word uskay saath adjective may daalnay apnay topic related thok daalnay ka :P) When aske d the inevitable ââ¬Å"And what do you do,â⬠you may think ââ¬Å"Iââ¬â¢m an economist/an educator/an engineerâ⬠is giving enough information to engender good conversation. However, to one who is not an economist, educator, or an engineer, you might as well be saying ââ¬Å"Iââ¬â¢m a paleontologist/psychoanalyst/pornographer. Flesh it out. Throw out some delicious facts about your job for new acquaintances to munch on. Otherwise, theyââ¬â¢ll soon excuse themselves, preferring the snacks back at the cheese tray. Technique #17 Never the Naked Introduction ( batey karna sikhoo logo k saamnay.. gungay key tarah khaday mat rahoo ) When introducing people, donââ¬â¢t throw out an unbaited hook and stand there grinning like a big clam, leaving the newlymets to ? utter their ? ns and ? sh for a topic. Bait the conversational hook to get them in the swim of things. Then youââ¬â¢re free to stay or ? oat on to the next networking opportunity. Technique #18 Be a Word Detective ( kaaan khullaa raknay ka,aur uski baato say hint lekar TOPIC nikaal na kaaâ⬠¦ samja kya ? ) Like a good gumshoe, listen to your conversation partnerââ¬â¢s every word for clues to his or her preferred topic. The evidence is bound to slip out. Then spring on that subject like a sleuth on to a slip of the tongue. Like Sherlock Holmes, you have the clue to the subject thatââ¬â¢s hot for the other person. Technique #19 The Swiveling Spotlight When you meet someone, imagine a giant revolving spotlight between you. When youââ¬â¢re talking, the spotlight is on you. When the new person is speaking, itââ¬â¢s shining on him or her. If you shine it brightly enough, the stranger will be blinded to the fact that you have hardly said a word about yourself. The longer you keep it shining away from you, the more interesting he or she ? nds you. Technique #20 Parroting Never be left speechless again. Like a parrot, simply repeat the last few words your conversation partner says. That puts the ball right back in his or her court, and then all you need to do is listen. Technique #21 Encore! ( Koi achaa saa kissaa apni yaaado say dusro ko batana aur puchna kya apko yeh pasand aaya , hum firsay baatay ) The sweetest sound a performer can hear welling up ut of the applause is ââ¬Å"Encore! Encore! Letââ¬â¢s hear it again! â⬠The sweetest sound your conversation partner can hear from your lips when youââ¬â¢re talking with a group of people is ââ¬Å"Tell them about the time you . . . â⬠Whenever youââ¬â¢re at a meeting or party with someone important to you, think of some stories he or she told you. Cho ose an appropriate one from their repertoire that the crowd will enjoy. Then shine the spotlight by requesting a repeat performance. Technique #22 Ac-cen-tu-ate the Pos-i-tive ( a ache see smile chipkaa daaalnay ka,with +tve ness haan ) When ? rst meeting someone, lock your closet door and ave your skeletons for later. You and your new good friend can invite the skeletons out, have a good laugh, and dance over their bones later in the relationship. But nowââ¬â¢s the time, as the old song says, to ââ¬Å"ac-cen-tu-ate the pos-i-tive and elim-i-nate the neg-a-tive. â⬠Technique #23 The Latest News . . . Donââ¬â¢t Leave Home Without It ( upto date rahooâ⬠¦ BOLE toh TIP TOP) The last move to make before leaving for the partyââ¬â even after youââ¬â¢ve given yourself ? nal approval in the mirrorââ¬âis to turn on the radio news or scan your newspaper. Anything that happened today is good material. Knowing the big-deal news of the moment is lso a defensive move tha t rescues you from putting your foot in your mouth by asking what everybodyââ¬â¢s talking about. Foot-in-mouth is not very tasty in public, especially when itââ¬â¢s surrounded by egg-on-face. The Right Way to Find Out So how do you ? nd out what someone does for a living? (I thought youââ¬â¢d never ask. ) You simply practice the following eight words. All together now: ââ¬Å"How . . . do . . . you . . . spend . . . most . . . of . . . your . . . time? â⬠Technique #24 What Do You Doââ¬âNOT! A sure sign youââ¬â¢re a Somebody is the conspicuous ab- sence of the question, ââ¬Å"What do you do? â⬠(You deter- ine this, of course, but not with those four dirty words that label you as either a ruthless networker, a social climber, a gold-digging husband or wife hunter, or someone whoââ¬â¢s never strolled along Easy Street. ) Technique #25 The Nutshell Resume (apna character bhale he acha ho , alag alag log say miltay ho apna parichay badaltay raheyayâ⬠¦ lekin woh topic apna original hoâ⬠¦) Just as job-seeking top managers roll a different written resume off their printers for each position theyââ¬â¢re applying for, let a different true story about your professional life roll off your tongue for each listener. Before responding to ââ¬Å"What do you do? ask yourself, ââ¬Å"What possible interest could this person have in my answer? Could he refer business to me? Buy from me? Hire me? Marry my sister? Become my buddy? â⬠Wherever you go, pack a nutshell about your own life to work into your communications bag of tricks. Technique #26 Your Personal Thesaurus ( dude means that u shud use different words of same meaning in A COOL dude wayâ⬠¦ ) Look up some common words you use every day in the thesaurus. Then, like slipping your feet into a new pair of shoes, slip your tongue into a few new words to see how they ? t. If you like them, start making permanent replacements. Remember, only ? fty words makes the difference between a rich, creative vocabulary and an average, middle-of-the-road one. Substitute a word a day for two months and youââ¬â¢ll be in the verbally elite. Technique #27 Kill the Quick ââ¬Å"Me, Too! â⬠( jaldee mat kehna, mujay bhee but thoda wait karna chaiyay fir thoday tym k baad kehna chaiyay ) Whenever you have something in common with someone, the longer you wait to reveal it, the more moved (and impressed) he or she will be. You emerge as a con? dent big cat, not a lonely little stray, hungry for quick connection with a stranger. P. S. : Donââ¬â¢t wait too long to reveal your shared nterest or it will seem like youââ¬â¢re being tricky. Technique #28 Comm-YOU-nication ( pehlay aap ) Start every appropriate sentence with you. It immedi- ately grabs your listenerââ¬â¢s attention. It gets a more positive response because it pushes the pride button and saves them having to translate it into ââ¬Å"meâ⬠terms. W hen you sprinkle you as liberally as salt and pepper throughout your conversation, your listeners ?nd it an irresistible spice. Technique #29 The Exclusive Smile (use happydent sumtym LOL,issmile usee ko do JO hamay pasand aae ) If you ? ash everybody the same smile, like a Confed- erate dollar, it loses value. When meeting groups of people, grace each with a distinct smile. Let your smiles grow out of the beauty big players ? nd in each new face. If one person in a group is more important to you than the others, reserve an especially big, ? ooding smile just for him or her. Technique #30 Donââ¬â¢t Touch a Cliche with a Ten-Foot Pole ( koi NOOB jaisa word mat bhakna) Be on guard. Donââ¬â¢t use any cliches when chatting with big winners. Donââ¬â¢t even touch one with a ten-foot pole. Never? Not even when hell freezes over? Not unless you want to sound dumb as a doorknob. Instead of coughing up a cliche, roll your own clever phrases by using the next technique. Technique #31 Use Jawsmithââ¬â¢s Jive (Rhymin words but u Gotta be cool and only U ) Whether youââ¬â¢re standing behind a podium facing thousands or behind the barbecue grill facing your family, youââ¬â¢ll move, amuse, and motivate with the same skills. Read speakersââ¬â¢ books to cull quotations, pull pearls of wisdom, and get gems to tickle their funny bones. Find a few bon mots to let casually slide off your tongue on chosen occasions. If you want to be notable, dream up a crazy quotable. Make ââ¬â¢em rhyme, make ââ¬â¢em clever, or make ââ¬â¢em funny. Above all, make ââ¬â¢em relevant. Technique #32 Call a Spade a Spade ( bade log ko bade key tarah he maana chaiyay.. Donââ¬â¢t hide behind euphemisms. Call a spade a spade. That doesnââ¬â¢t mean big cats use tasteless four-letter words when perfectly decent ? ve- and six-letter ones exist. Theyââ¬â¢ve simply learned the Kingââ¬â¢s English, and they speak it. Hereââ¬â¢s another way to tell the bi g players from the little ones just by listening to a few minutes of their conversation. Technique #33 Trash the Teasing ( kabhe bhe group talk may paiso so related Kisee aadmi par topic ya joke nahe karna chaiyay ) A dead giveaway of a little cat is his or her proclivity to tease. An innocent joke at someone elseââ¬â¢s expense may get you a cheap laugh. Nevertheless, the big cats will ave the last one. Because youââ¬â¢ll bang your head against the glass ceiling they construct to keep little cats from stepping on their paws. Never, ever, make a joke at anyone elseââ¬â¢s expense. Youââ¬â¢ll wind up paying for it, dearly. Technique #34 Itââ¬â¢s the Receiverââ¬â¢s Ball ( bad news ko smile,a relaxd whali breath k saath yaa thoda udaaseen ho expression kum he dikha kar batana chaiyay) A football player wouldnââ¬â¢t last two beats of the time clock if he made blind passes. A pro throws the ball with the receiver always in mind. Before throwing out any news, keep your receiver in mind. Then deliver it with a smile, a sigh, or a sob. Not ccording to how you feel about the news, but how the receiver will take it. Technique #35 The Broken Record (Pagaal ko log ko PAGAL banaanay ka ek he tarekaa,unchaahe baat puchnay par ek he baat ka REPETITION key jiyay) Whenever someone persists in questioning you on an unwelcome subject, simply repeat your original response. Use precisely the same words in precisely the same tone of voice. Hearing it again usually quiets them down. If your rude interrogator hangs on like a leech, your next repetition never fails to ? ick them off. Technique #36 Big Shots Donââ¬â¢t Slobber (fattu log key tarah mat khaday raynaâ⬠¦TAREEF jaldee say na karna.. alkee yeh kehna aap nay â⬠¦ yeh sab kia mujay essay khushii mile DHANYAWAAD) .. People who are VIPs in their own right donââ¬â¢t slobber over celebrities. When you are chatting with one, donââ¬â¢t compliment her work, simply say how much pleasure or insight ità ¢â¬â¢s given you. If you do single out any one of the starââ¬â¢s accomplishments, make sure itââ¬â¢s a recent one, not a memory thatââ¬â¢s getting yellow in her scrapbook. If the queen bee has a drone sitting with her, ? nd a way to involve him in the conversation. Technique #37 Never the Naked Thank You ( thankU ko dilsay badachadakar bolo) Never let the phrase ââ¬Å"thank youâ⬠stand alone. From A o Z, always follow it with for: from ââ¬Å"Thank you for askingâ⬠to ââ¬Å"Thank you for zipping me up. â⬠Technique #38 Scramble Therapy ( do sumthin CRAZY broâ⬠¦ ) Once a month, scramble your life. Do something youââ¬â¢d never dream of doing. Participate in a sport, go to an exhibition, hear a lecture on something totally out of your experience. You get 80 percent of the right lingo and insider questions from just one exposure. If you take a piece of blue litmus paper and dip it in a huge vat of acid, the tip turns pink. If you take another blue litm us paper and dip it into just one minuscule drop of acid on a glass slide, the tip turns just as pink. Compare this to participating in an activity just one time. A sampling gives you 80 percent of the conversa- tional value. You learn the insiderââ¬â¢s questions to ask. You start using the right terms. Youââ¬â¢ll never be at a loss again when the subject of extracurricular interests comes upââ¬âwhich it always does. Technique #39 Learn a Little Jobbledygook ( dude u gotta show interest in their lyf interest abt things which they lyk) Big winners speak Jobbledygook as a second language. What is Jobbledygook? Itââ¬â¢s the language of other professions. Why speak it? It makes you sound like an insider. How do you learn it? Youââ¬â¢ll ? d no Jobbledygook cassettes in the language section of your bookstore, but the lingo is easy to pick up. Simply ask a friend who speaks the lingo of the crowd youââ¬â¢ll be with to teach you a few opening questions. The words are few and the rewards are manifold. Technique #40 Baring Their Hot Button (PEOPLE k characters and status ko d ekhkar achay saawal pucho widââ¬â¢out TENSION) Before jumping blindly into a bevy of bookbinders or a drove of dentists, ? nd out what the hot issues are in their ? elds. Every industry has burning concerns the outside world knows little about. Ask your informant to bare the industry buzz. Then, to heat the conversation up, push those buttons. Technique #41 Read Their Rags ( uska man pasand hobby dekhoâ⬠¦ uskay bare may jaankar eekata karoo) Is your next big client a golfer, runner, swimmer, surfer, or skier? Are you attending a social function ? lled with accountants or Zen Buddhistsââ¬âor anything in between? There are untold thousands of monthly magazines serving every imaginable interest. You can dish up more information than youââ¬â¢ll ever need to sound like an insider with anyone just by reading the rags that serve their racket. (Have you read your latest copy of Zoonooz yet? ) Technique #42 Clear ââ¬Å"Customsâ⬠Before putting one toe on foreign soil, get a book on dos and taboos around the world. Before you shake hands, give a gift, make gestures, or even compliment anyoneââ¬â¢s possessions, check it out. Your gaffe could gum up your entire gig. Technique #43 Bluffing for Bargains ( dude u wanna know the thing ,whaz it ? then buy it) PUCHtaach karo The haggling skills used in ancient Arab markets are alive and well in contemporary America for big-ticket items. Your price is much lower when you know how to deal. Before every big purchase, ? nd several vendorsââ¬âa few to learn from and one to buy from. Armed with a ew words of industryese, youââ¬â¢re ready to head for the store where youââ¬â¢re going to buy. Technique #44 Be a Copyclass Watch people. Look at the way they move. Small movements? Big movements? Fast? Slow? Jerky? Fluid? Old? Young? Classy? Trashy? Pretend the person you are talking to is your danc instructor. Is he a jazzy mover? Is she a balletic mover? Watch his or her body, and then imitate the style of movement. That makes your conversation partner subliminally real comfy with you. Technique #45 Echoing Echoing is a simple linguistic technique that packs a powerful wallop. Listen to the speakerââ¬â¢s arbitrary choice f nouns, verbs, prepositions, adjectivesââ¬âand echo them back. Hearing their words come out of your mouth creates subliminal rapport. It makes them feel you share their values, their attitudes, their interests, their experiences. Technique #46 Potent Imaging Does your customer have a garden? Talk about ââ¬Å"sowing the seeds for success. â⬠Does your boss own a boat? Tell him or her about a concept that will ââ¬Å"hold waterâ⬠or ââ¬Å"stay a? oat. â⬠Maybe he is a private pilot? Talk about a concept really ââ¬Å"taking off. â⬠She plays tennis? Tell her it really hits the ââ¬Å"sweet spot. â⬠Evoke your listenerââ¬â¢s interests or lifestyle and weave images around it. To give your points more power and punch, use analogies from your listenerââ¬â¢s world, not your own. Potent Imaging also tells your listeners you think like them and hints you share their interests. Technique #47 Employ Empathizers Donââ¬â¢t be an unconscious ummer. Vocalize complete sentences to show your understanding. Dust your dialogue with phrases like ââ¬Å"I see what you mean. â⬠Sprinkle it with sentimental sparklers like ââ¬Å"Thatââ¬â¢s a lovely thing to say. â⬠Your empathy impresses your listeners and encourages them to continue. Technique #48 Anatomically Correct Empathizers What part of their anatomy are your associates talking through? Their eyes? Their ears? Their gut? For visual people, use visual empathizers to make them think you see the world the way they do. For auditory folks, use auditory empathizers to make them think you hear them loud and clear. For kinesthetic types, use kinesthetic empathizers to make them think you feel the same way they do. #49 How to Make ââ¬â¢Em Think We (Instead of You vs. Me ) 1. Level One: Cliches Two strangers talking together primarily toss cliches back and forth. For instance, when chatting about the universally agreed- upon worldââ¬â¢s dullest subjectââ¬âthe weatherââ¬âone stranger might say to the other, ââ¬Å"Beautiful sunny weather weââ¬â¢ve been having. Or, ââ¬Å"Boy, some rain, huh? â⬠Thatââ¬â¢s level one, cliches. 2. Level Two: Facts People who know each other but are just acquaintances often dis- cuss facts. ââ¬Å"You know, Joe, weââ¬â¢ve had twice as many sunny days this year to date as last. â⬠Or, ââ¬Å"Yeah, well, we ? nally decided to pu t in a swimming pool to beat the heat. â⬠3. Level Three: Feelings and Personal Questions When people become friends, they often express their feelings to each other, even on subjects as dull as the weather. ââ¬Å"George, I just love these sunny days. â⬠They also ask each other personal ques- tions: ââ¬Å"How about you, Betty? Are you a sun person? â⬠4. Level Four: We Statements Now we progress to the highest level of intimacy. This level is richer than facts and creates more rapport than feelings. Itââ¬â¢s we and us statements. Friends discussing the weather might say, ââ¬Å"If we keep having this good weather, itââ¬â¢ll be a great summer. â⬠Lovers might say, ââ¬Å"I hope this good weather keeps up for us so we can go swimming on our trip. â⬠A technique to achieve the ultimate verbal intimacy grows out of this phenomenon. Simply use the word we prematurely. You can use it to make a client, a prospect, a stranger feel you are already friends. Use it to make a potential romantic partner feel the two of you are already an item. I call it the ââ¬Å"Premature We. â⬠In casual conversation, simply cut through levels one and two. Jump straight to three and four. Chemistry, charisma, and con? dence are three characteristics shared by big winners in all walks of life. Part One helped us make a dynamic, con? dent, and charismatic ? rst impression with body language. In Part Two, we put smooth small-talk lyrics to our body ballet. Then in Part Three, we seized hints from the big boys and big girls so weââ¬â¢re contenders for lifeââ¬â¢s big league. Part Four rescued us from being tongue-tied with folks with whom we have very lit- tle in common. And in Part Five, we learned techniques to create instant chemistry, instant intimacy, instant rapport. Mind boggling, isnââ¬â¢t it? Sociologistsââ¬â¢ research shows: 1) a com- pliment from a new person is more potent than from someone you already know, 2) your compliment has more credibility when given to an unattractive person or an attractive person whose face youââ¬â¢ve never seen, 3) you are taken more seriously if you preface your comments by some self-effacing remarkââ¬âbut only if your listener perceives you as higher on the totem pole. If youââ¬â¢re lower, yourself-effacing remark reduces your credibility. Complicated, this complimenting stuff. Technique #51 Grapevine Glory A compliment one hears is never as exciting as the one he overhears. A priceless way to praise is not by telephone, not by telegraph, but by tell-a-friend. This way you escape possible suspicion that you are an apple-polishing, bootlicking, egg-sucking, back- scratching sycophant trying to win brownie points. You also leave recipients with the happy fantasy that you are telling the whole world about their greatness. Technique #52 Carrier Pigeon Kudos People immediately grow a beak and metamorphosize themselves into carrier pigeons when thereââ¬â¢s bad news. Itââ¬â¢s called gossip. ) Instead, become a carrier of good news and kudos. Whenever you hear something complimentary about someone, ? y to them with the compliment. Your fans may not posthumously stuff you and put you on display in a museum like Stumpy Joe. But everyone loves the carrier pigeon of kind thoughts. Carry More Cargo than Compliments Another wa y to warm hearts and win friends is to become a car- rier pigeon of news items that might interest the recipient. Call, mail, or E-mail people with information they might ? nd interesting. Technique #53 Implied Magnificence Throw a few comments into your conversation that resuppose something positive about the person youââ¬â¢re talking with. But be careful. Donââ¬â¢t blow it like the well- intentioned maintenance man. Or the southern boy who, at the prom, thought he was ? attering his date when he told her, ââ¬Å"Gosh, Mary Lou, for a fat gal you dance real good. â⬠Technique #54 Accidental Adulation Become an undercover complimenter. Stealthily sneak praise into the parenthetical part of your sentence. Just donââ¬â¢t try to quiz anyone later on your main point. The joyful jolt of your accidental adulation strikes them temporarily deaf to anything that follows. Technique #55 Killer Compliment Whenever you are talking with a stranger youââ¬â¢d like to make part of your professional or personal future, search for one attractive, speci? c, and unique quality he or she has. At the end of the conversation, look the individual right in the eye. Say his or her name and proceed to curl all ten toes with the Killer Compliment. Rule #1: Deliver your Killer Compliment to the recipi- ent in private. If you are standing with a group of four or ? ve people and you praise one woman for being ? t, every other woman feels like a barrel of lard. If you tell one man he has wonderful carriage, every other feels like a hunchback. You also make the blushing recipient uncomfortable. Rule #2: Make your Killer Compliment credible. For example, Iââ¬â¢m tone-deaf. If Iââ¬â¢m forced to sing even a simple song like ââ¬Å"Happy Birthday,â⬠I sound like a sick pig. If anyone in earshot were foolish enough to tell me they liked my voice, Iââ¬â¢d know it was hogwash. Rule #3: Confer only one Killer Compliment per half year on each recipient . Otherwise you come across as insincere, groveling, obsequious, pandering, and a thoroughly manipulative person. Not cool. With careful aim, the Killer Compliment captures everyone. It works best, however, when you use it judiciously on new cquaintances. If you want to praise friends every day, employ the next technique. Technique #56 Little Strokes Donââ¬â¢t make your colleagues, your friends, your loved ones look at you and silently say, ââ¬Å"Havenââ¬â¢t I been pretty good today? â⬠Let them know how much you appreciate them by caressing them with verbal Little Strokes like ââ¬Å"Nice job! â⬠ââ¬Å"Well done! â⬠ââ¬Å"Cool! â⬠Technique #57 The Knee-Jerk ââ¬Å"Wow! â⬠Quick as a blink, you must praise people the moment they a ? nish a feat. In a wink, like a knee-jerk reaction say, ââ¬Å"You were terri? c! â⬠Donââ¬â¢t worry that they wonââ¬â¢t believe you. The euphoria of the moment has a strangely numbing effect n the achieverââ¬â¢s objective judgment. Technique #58 Boomeranging Just as a boomerang ? ies right back to the thrower, let compliments boomerang right back to the giver. Like the French, quickly murmur something that expresses ââ¬Å"Thatââ¬â¢s very kind of you. â⬠Technique #59 The Tombstone Game Ask the important people in your life what they would like engraved on their tombstone. Chisel it into your memory but donââ¬â¢t mention it again. Then, when the moment is right to say ââ¬Å"I appreciate youâ⬠or ââ¬Å"I love you,â⬠? ll the blanks with the very wor ds they gave you weeks earlier. You take peopleââ¬â¢s breath away when you feed their eepest self-image to them in a compliment. ââ¬Å"At last,â⬠they say to themselves, ââ¬Å"someone who loves me for who I truly am. â⬠Technique #60 Talking Gestures Think of yourself as the star of a personal radio drama every time you pick up the phone. If you want to come across as engaging as you are, you must turn your smiles into sound, your nods into noise, and all your gestures into something your listener can hear. You must replace your gestures with talk. Then punch up the whole act 30 percent! Technique #61 Name Shower People perk up when they hear their own name. Use it more often on the phone than you would in person to eep their attention. Your callerââ¬â¢s name re-creates the eye contact, the caress, you might give in person. Saying someoneââ¬â¢s name repeatedly when face-to-face sounds pandering. But because there is physical distance between you on the phoneâ⠬âsometimes youââ¬â¢re a conti- nent apartââ¬âyou can spray your conversation with it. Technique #62 ââ¬Å"Oh Wow, Itââ¬â¢s You! â⬠Donââ¬â¢t answer the phone with an ââ¬Å"Iââ¬â¢m just sooo happy all the timeâ⬠attitude. Answer warmly, crisply, and professionally. Then, after you hear who is calling, let a huge smile of happiness engulf your entire face and spill over into your voice. You make your caller feel as hough your giant warm fuzzy smile is reserved for him or her. Technique #63 The Sneaky Screen If you must screen your calls, instruct your staff to ? rst say cheerfully, ââ¬Å"Oh yes, Iââ¬â¢ll put you right through. May I tell her whoââ¬â¢s calling? â⬠If the party has already identi? ed himself, itââ¬â¢s ââ¬Å"Oh of course, Mr. Whoozit. Iââ¬â¢ll put you right through. â⬠When the secretary comes back with the bad news that Mr. or Ms. Bigwig is unavailable, callers donââ¬â¢t take it personally and never feel screened . They fall for it every time, just like I did. Technique #64 Salute the Spouse Whenever you are calling someoneââ¬â¢s home, always identify nd greet the person who answers. Whenever you call someoneââ¬â¢s of? ce more than once or twice, make friends with the secretary. Anybody who is close enough to answer the phone is close enough to sway the VIPââ¬â¢s opinion of you. Technique #65 What Color Is Your Time? No matter how urgent you think your call, always begin by asking the person about timing. Either use the What Color Is Your Time? device or simply ask, ââ¬Å"Is this a convenient time for you to talk? â⬠When you ask about timing ? rst, youââ¬â¢ll never smash your footprints right in the middle of your telephone partnerââ¬â¢s sands of time. Youââ¬â¢ll never get a ââ¬Å"No! just because your timing wasnââ¬â¢t right. How to Impress Everyone with Your Outgoing Voicemail Message And hereââ¬â¢s the secret: to give the impression you are really on top of your business, change your message every day. Studies show that callers perceive people to be brighter and more ef? cient when they hear an updated message each time they call. If appropriate, let callers know where you are and when you intend to be back. If you have customers who need to be attended to, this is crucial. Technique #66 Constantly Changing Outgoing Message If you want to be perceived as conscientious and eliable, leave a short, professional, and friendly greeting as your outgoing message. No music. No jokes. No inspirational messages. No boasts, bells, or whistles. And hereââ¬â¢s the secret: change it every day. Your message doesnââ¬â¢t have to be ? awless. A little cough or stammer gives a lovely unpretentious reality to your message Technique #67 Your Ten-Second Audition ( just keep in suspenseâ⬠¦. ) While dialing, clear your throat. If an answering machine picks up, pretend the beep is a big Broadway producer saying ââ¬Å"Nexxxt. â⬠Now youââ¬â¢ re on. This is Your Ten-Second Audition to prove you are worthy of a quick callback. Technique #68 The Ho-Hum Caper Instead of using your partyââ¬â¢s name, casually let the pronoun he or she roll off your tongue. Forget ââ¬Å"Uh, may I speak to Ms. Bigshot please? â⬠Just announce, ââ¬Å"Hi, Bob Smith here, is she in? â⬠Tossing the familiar she off your tongue signals to the secretary that you and her boss are old buddies. Technique #69 ââ¬Å"I Hear Your Other Lineâ⬠(I can hear U other lynâ⬠¦kuch kaam hai apko ussay..? When you hear a phone in the background, stop speakingââ¬âin midsentence, if necessaryââ¬âand say ââ¬Å"I hear your other line,â⬠(or your dog barking, your baby crying, your spouse calling you). Ask whether she has o attend to it. Whether she does or not, sheââ¬â¢ll know youââ¬â¢re a top communicator for asking. Technique #70 Instant Replay Record all your business conversations and listen to them again. The second or third time, you pick up on signi? cant subtleties you missed the ? rst time. Itââ¬â¢s like football fans who often donââ¬â¢t know if there was a fumble until they see it all over again in Instant Replay. Use the Six-Point Party Checklistââ¬âthe Who? When? Why? Where? What? and How? of a partyââ¬âas your general game plan. Now letââ¬â¢s get down to speci? cs. Technique #71 Munching or Mingling Politicians want to be eyeball to eyeball and belly to elly with their constituents. Like any big winner well versed in the science of proxemics and spatial relationships, they know any object except their belt buckle has the effect of a brick wall between two people. Therefore they never hold food or drink at a party. Come to munch or come to mingle. But do not expect to do both. Like a good politician, chow down before you come. Technique #72 Rubberneck the Room When you arrive at the gathering, stop dramatically in the doorway. Then s-l-o-w-l-y survey the situation. Let your eyes travel back and forth like a SWAT team ready in a heartbeat to wipe out anything th at moves. Technique #73 Be the Chooser, Not the Choosee( baagha key tarah khaday mat raho.. jo bakra pasaand aaya usko manaao) The lifelong friend, the love of your life, or the business contact who will transform your future may not be at the party. However, someday, somewhere, he or she will be. Make every party a rehearsal for the big event. Do not stand around waiting for the moment when that special person approaches you. You make it happen by exploring every face in the room. No more ââ¬Å"ships passing in the night. â⬠Capture whatever or whomever you want in your life. Technique #75 Tracking Like an air-traf? controller, track the tiniest details of your conversation partnersââ¬â¢ lives. Refer to them in your conversation like a major news story. It creates a power- ful sense of intimacy. When you invoke the last major or minor event in anyoneââ¬â¢s life, it con? rms the deep conviction that he or she is an old-style hero around whom the world revolves. And people love you for recognizing their stardom. Technique #76 The Business Card Dossier Right after youââ¬â¢ve talked to someone at a party, take out your pen. On the back of his or her business card write notes to remind you of the conversation: his favorite restaurant, sport, movie, or drink; whom she dmires, where she grew up, a high school honor; or maybe a joke he told. In your next communication, toss off a reference to the favorite restaurant, sport, movie, drink, hometown, high school honor. Or reprieve the laugh over the great joke. Like a sales pro, ask yourself, ââ¬Å"How can I change the subject to turn this person on? â⬠Technique #77 Eyeball Selling The human body is a twenty-four-hour broadcasting station that transmits ââ¬Å"You thrill me. â⬠ââ¬Å"You bore me. â⬠ââ¬Å"I love that aspect of your product. â⬠ââ¬Å"That one puts my feet to sleep. â⬠Set the hidden cameras behind your eyeballs to pick up on all your customersââ¬â¢ and friendsââ¬â¢ signals. Then plan your pitch and your pace accordingly. Technique #78 See No Bloopers, Hear No Bloopers Cool communicators allow their friends, associates, acquaintances, and loved ones the pleasurable myth of being above commonplace bloopers and embarrassing biological functions. They simply donââ¬â¢t notice their comradesââ¬â¢ minor spills, slips, fumbles, and faux pas. They obviously ignore raspberries and all other signs of human frailty in their fellow mortals. Big winners never gape at anotherââ¬â¢s gaffes. Technique #79 Lend a Helping Tongue Whenever someoneââ¬â¢s story is aborted, let the interrup- tion play itself out. Give everyone time to dote on the little darling, give their dinner order, or pick up the jagged pieces of china. Then, when the group reassembles, simply say to the person who suffered story-interruptus, ââ¬Å"Now please get back to your story. â⬠Or better yet, remember where they were and then ask, ââ¬Å"So what happened after the . . . â⬠(and ? ll in the last few words). When asking someone for a favor, let them know how mu t means to you. You come across as a straight shooter, and the joy of helping you out is often reward enough. Donââ¬â¢t deny them th leasure! Technique #80 Bare the Buried WIIFM (and WIIFY) Whenever you suggest a meeting or ask a favor, divulge the respective bene? ts. Reveal whatââ¬â¢s in it for you and whatââ¬â¢s in it for the other personââ¬âeven if itââ¬â¢s zip. If any hidden agenda comes up later, you get labeled a sly fox. Technique #81 Let ââ¬â¢Em Savor the Favor Whenever a friend agrees to a favor, allow your generous buddy time to relish the joy of his or her bene? cence before you make them pay the piper. How long? At least twenty-four hours. Technique #82 Tit for (Wait . . . Wait) Tat When you do someone a favor and itââ¬â¢s obvious that ââ¬Å"he owes you one,â⬠wait a suitable amount of time before asking him to ââ¬Å"pay. Let him enjoy the fact (or ? ction) that you did it out of friendship. Donââ¬â¢t call in your tit for their tat too swiftly(fastly). Technique #83 Parties Are for Pratter There are three sacred safe havens in the human jungle where even the toughest tiger knows he must not attack. The ? rst of these is parties. Parties are for pleasantries and good fellowship, not for confrontations. Big players, even when standing next to their enemies at the buffet table, smile and nod. They leave tough talk for tougher settings. Technique #84 Dinnerââ¬â¢s for Dining The most guarded safe haven respected by big winners is the dining table. Breaking bread together is a time when they bring up no unpleasant matters. While eating, they know itââ¬â¢s OK to brainstorm and discuss the positive side of the business: their dreams, their desires, their designs. They can free associate and come up with new ideas. But no tough business. Technique #85 Chance Encounters Are for Chitchat If youââ¬â¢re selling, negotiating, or in any sensitive communication with someone, do NOT capitalize on a chance meeting. Keep the melody of your mistaken meeting sweet and light. Otherwise, it could turn into your swan song with Big Winner. Technique #86 Empty Their Tanks If you need information, let people have their entire say ?rst. Wait patiently until their needle is on empty and the last drop drips out and splashes on the cement. Itââ¬â¢s the only way to be sure their tank is empty enough of their own inner noise to start receiving your ideas. Technique #87 Echo the Emo Facts speak. Emotions shout. Whenever you need facts from people about an emotional situation, let them emote. Hear their facts but empathize like mad with their emotions. Smearing on the emo is often the only way to calm their emotional storm. Technique #88 My Goof, Your Gain Whenever you make a boner, make sure your victim ene? ts. Itââ¬â¢s not enough to correct your mistake. Ask yourself, ââ¬Å"What could I do for this suffering soul so he or she will be delighted I made the ? ub? â⬠Then do it, fast! In that way, your goof will become your gain. Technique #89 Leave an Escape Hatch Whenever you catch someone lying, ? lching, exagger- ating, distorting, or deceiving, donââ¬â¢t confront the dirty duck directly. Unless it is your responsibility to catch or correct the culpritââ¬âor unless you are saving other innocent victims by doing soââ¬âlet the transgressor out of your trap with his tricky puss in one piece. Then resolve never to gaze upon it again. Technique #90 Buttercups for Their Boss ( makhhan maarkay) Do you have a store clerk, accountant, law ? rm junior partner, tailor, auto mechanic, maitre dââ¬â¢, massage therapist, kidââ¬â¢s teacherââ¬âor any other worker you want special attention from in the future? The sure? re way to make them care enough to give you their very best is send a buttercup to their boss. Technique #91 Lead the Listeners No matter how prominent the big cat behind the podium is, crouched inside is a little scaredy-cat who is anxious about the crowdââ¬â¢s acceptance. Big winners recognize youââ¬â¢re a fellow big winner when they see you leading their listeners in a positive eaction. Be the ? rst to applaud or publicly commend the man or woman you agree with (or want favors from). Big winnersââ¬âbefore putting pen to paper, ? ngers to key- board, mouth to phone, or hand to someone elseââ¬â¢s to shake itââ¬â do a quick calculation. They ask themselves ââ¬Å"Who has the most to bene? t from th is relationship? What has each of us done recently that demands deference from the other? â⬠And what can I do to even the score? Remember, repeating an action makes a habit. Your habits create your character. And your character is your destiny. May success be your destiny. Cheer UP broâ⬠¦. ðŸË⬠***************
Friday, January 3, 2020
What Is Taqwa - Free Essay Example
Sample details Pages: 5 Words: 1400 Downloads: 10 Date added: 2019/10/10 Category Religion Essay Tags: Islam Essay Did you like this example? The phrase Taqwa is frequently equated as holiness or God-fearing, however a far better matching will be actually God-consciousness. It is actually taken into consideration to be the crucial quality of a follower. Taqwa of a believer need to illuminate with all facets of his/her life, similar to a vivid light would certainly shine via all openings of an unfilled home in an empty field in a dark evening. Donââ¬â¢t waste time! Our writers will create an original "What Is Taqwa?" essay for you Create order Taqwa, when coupled along with Imaan (faith), brings in an all-round believer. Taqwa works together along with Imaan; one can not be total without the various other, and also bad habit versa. Taqwa is actually the condition of hyper-vigilance against coming under transgression in neglect. It is actually the tip that a believer is consistently on protection and is actually constantly sharp of certainly not dedicating any type of activity that would get the annoyance of the Almighty. It is actually the state of preparedness of preparing for a scenario where one might be actually coerced in to performing Haram, and because of this preparedness, to steer clear of as well as avoid of that Haram. In its higher forms, Taqwa is the concern of certainly not of certainly not taking the greatest course towards Allahs Pleasure and His Grace. Taqwa is commonly equated as concern of God, but the genuine spirit of Taqwa is being actually hyper-vigilant and the anxiety of doing Haram away from neglect of Allahs orders. It is actually the condition of awareness to become watchful of Allah whatsoever opportunities as well as attain His the greatest enjoyment in all opportunities. Consequently, any sort of such top qualities of a person that would make him preoccupied of Allah are actually detrimental to his/her Taqwa. The affection of this realm, piggishness, detestation or even enmity towards a fellow human, take pride in, and so on are actually all instances of such qualities that hurt an enthusiasts Taqwa. Because of this, the a lot more observant an enthusiast is actually, and also much more sharp (s) he remains in guarding him/herself coming from such harmful traits that would certainly produce him/her forgetful of Allah, the much better his/her Taqwa or even God-consciousness is actually. The awareness that Taqwa suggests is a venerating awareness. The state of performance when one is in admiration and also adoration of one thing or even a person. Envision you fulfill your lifelong shining example, just how mindful to their every necessity would you be actually? You will observe all their little quirks as well as distinctions, their physical body foreign language, behavior, what bugs them, and what creates all of them pleased. If they showed that they desire one thing, you would hurry to obtain it carried out in the greatest manner possible as well as do it in a manner that would certainly make all of them most satisfied. You would certainly restrain any interior protection inside you that would maintain you from carrying out the greatest task. You would be actually fearful in ending up being unconcerned to their requirement and also refraining from doing your greatest for their total satisfaction. A matching instance is actually if you were in the firm of somebody yo u greatly and also strongly adored. You will foresee and intend in advance to make all of them feel as comfy and also secure as possible. You will certainly constantly look out and aware and will definitely think ahead therefore concerning avoid any type of scenarios or scenarios that would make all of them even remotely unhappy. All your efforts are going to be actually centered in maintaining them delighted as well as comfortable as humanely as probably. If they contacted you, you will go down everything you would be actually carrying out to take care of their need promptly. Additionally, you will be therefore aware of the surroundings as well as especially vigilant to exactly how you function, what you state or perform in their visibility, so that they dont acquire shut off whatsoever. Taqwa signifies a similar feeling of performance, awareness and watchfulness in the direction of the Pleasure as well as Mercy of Allah. To become consistently familiar with what feels free to or displeases Him and also to guarantee all our efforts are actually to make Him most delighted and increase His optimum Pleasure. Taqwa indicates to enter acting on the purchases of Allah as well as to reduce any sort of desires that will avoid us from accomplishing the jobs in its ideal kind. But Taqwa goes a measure even further than the passion for a treasured or even the affection of a shining example as described over. To become hyper-vigilant in the presence of a beloved or even an adored individual may be actually good, but the significance of the endearment is actually measured if the degree of awareness is same in their absence. Allah is actually not actually present as well as obvious to our eyes: He is Haadhir (present) yet Ghaib (hidden). What creates Taqwa thus difficult and satis fying is the tip of expressing this degree alertness and attentiveness to Allah in His absence, when He is actually not visible. Hence, Taqwa can certainly not be actually classified merely as piety or even dreading God; rather, its a lot deeper and ornate than that. A person that possesses Taqwa is actually a Muttaqi (pl. muttaqin). A Muttaqi illustrates this constant condition of endearment throughout his/her actions in every facet of his/her daily life. (S) he lowers all the barriers that prevent him/her coming from committing every thing to Allah. (S) he minimizes the interruptions plus all the sound in his/her life that drown out his/her recognition of Allah. It is actually additionally mentioned that God reveals Himself in the silences of the soul, and also if an individual has a great deal of sound wishes, diseases of the soul, Haram passions, etc. (s) he will certainly never manage to really feel the visibility of Allah in his/her soul. The soul will definitely never be woken up to the truth of the Eternal Being, given that it is muddled and obstructed along with all other undertakings. To hear His mur murs, one possesses to be actually quiet. If an individual never stops speaking, they will never have the ability to properly listen to Allah, as they are heading to be actually engrossed along with their very own complaints. They will definitely never ever manage to arrive at an aspect of inner calmness whereby they may contact Allah. Much like the depths of a garden pond come to be unseen when the surface water is take in harsh movement (waves, and so on), our personal midsts are going to remain unnoticeable if we dont soothe the surface area of the spirit. That is actually to state, till one empties as well as clears away all diversions of this planet as well as cleans the health conditions of the heart, (s) he will not have the ability to deeply get in touch with Allah. As the Holy Qur a says, He (Allah) is with you anywhere you are actually. (57:4) He is actually neither lacking, nor is He overlooking. It is actually somewhat our awareness as well as our understanding our Taqwa towards Him that is actually missing and missing. He is actually along with our team along every action of the means, but our experts are actually standoffish of Him at every minute. Only if our experts tuned in to Him, became mindful of Him, and also roused our souls to Him may our experts experience His manifestations along with our personal souls. (41:53) Muttaqeen. Our team take pride in our own selves in being followers of Imam Ali (calmness be upon him), that is actually likewise referred to as Imam al-Muttaqeen Leader of the God-Conscious Ones. If our team definitely yearn for the Imam to take us in his observing, we must plant the qualities of the Muttaqeen in our lifestyles. We need to be actually ever-alert and also hyper-vigilant of the visibility and satisfaction of Allah with all components of our everyday lifestyles. At that point our company can start moving toward the setting and also may replicate the Imam, where he states, I did refrain anything in life except that I found Allah before it, within it, and after it.
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